Perfectionist: Quit Trying To Be Perfect

Three Thoughts To Help You Conquer Your Pursuit Of Perfection

Perfectionist, there is no such thing as perfect.

Often we are tempted to look at other people and compare our self to them. Their glaring weaknesses are never what show up in our thoughts, but rather we see all the spectacular wins and successes they seem to acquire.
Perfection gets even more elusive when you couple it with a comparison. However, today I want you to know that there is a freedom you can live in…Freedom from being perfect.

You were never perfect, to begin with. Your flaws and mistakes are absolutely part of you, but in Jesus, all of those qualities disappear. God covers you with the blood of Jesus Christ his Son, and you become a new person.

I know you probably remember the verse I am about to quote, but I ask you to please read it again with fresh eyes.

2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV – Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

Perfectionism has to bow to the new life found in Jesus Christ. The person you never thought you could live up to being, the one with perfectionist tendencies, is dead, and a brand new person had breathed in the breath of life when you became a Christian. Jesus takes away the old and brings in the new, and thank God for it.

The key to winning your battle with perfectionism is to stay in Christ. You have to keep yourself rooted and grounded in him. Don’t slip away from your relationship with him.
The most valuable qualities you will ever possess, find their way to the surface through your relationship with Jesus. He recreates you and forms you into the person you were created to be in the first place, and it is not a perfectionist.
It is likely that when you think of yourself, you think of the imperfections and all the qualities about yourself that you do not like. However, if you are a Christian, I am asking you to stop thinking about yourself and set your eyes on Jesus. He is the author and finisher of your faith, and he can build up a new set of qualities in your life based on the fruit of the Holy Spirit.

Here are a couple of things a perfectionist should think about this week:

1.) Perfection is not possible so quit striving for it.

Humans are flawed. We make mistakes. We fall short of the goal. Jesus came to span the space between YOUR best effort and God’s creative power and purpose in your life. You cannot get there on your own. It will require the power of God in your life. Quit trying to be a perfectionist and start living a simpler life by following God’s path.

2.) God never expected perfection from you in the first place.

Even though you are a perfectionist, God knows you are not perfect. He understands your weaknesses. He sees when you put forth your best effort, even though your effort cannot reach the goal line. However, unlike the world, God does not expect you to be perfect. In fact, he knows you cannot be.
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You are clothed with perfection when you put on Jesus Christ as Lord of your life. Perfection is not something you can be; it is something you put on. You put on the perfection of Jesus. You live in him and walk in him with the complete understanding that he never sinned and never made a mistake. You allow him to guide and direct your life. When you do these simple things, the pressure leaves, and peace starts to grow in your heart and mind.

3.) Getting to the goal line in life takes one simple quality. Faithfulness.

One time Jesus spoke a parable about money. In the parable, he compared the efforts of those who had received a degree of money to manage. Those who had received the money were expected to show effort and try to increase it through wise investments.
One of the money managers was afraid. He thought he would lose the money his master gave him if he invested it. So he just hid it in the ground. At least he would not lose it, right? Wrong.
When the master returned from his journey and inquired with each money manager, he found that the first two men had increased his money through wise investments, but when he came to the third, the master was angry because the man had no effort to show. What the master said is eye-opening: “You should have at least put my money in the bank so it could gain some interest.” (paraphrase)
Listen, banks do not provide excellent interest. The master was not looking to become wealthy from the effort of those he put in charge of his money. The master was already rich. He was giving his men a test of FAITHFULNESS. What would these men decide to DO with the opportunity they had received? Their faithfulness was the quality being tested, not their skill.
The master was only looking for faithfulness. Listen to what he said to those who put forth effort:

Matthew 25:21 NKJV – His lord said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant; you were faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things. Enter into the joy of your lord.’

Well done.

Who had done well? The ones who were faithful.

He called them “good” and “faithful.” They were not good because of what they did. They were good because they were the master’s servants. However, faithfulness was THEIR choice. They chose to be faithful in the little things, and because of their choice, the master was pleased.
God is not looking for perfection from you. He is looking for faithfulness. Quit being a perfectionist. God would much rather have a person who makes mistakes, admits them, and receives guidance or forgiveness, than an individual who strives for a perfection they can never reach on their own.
What will you be? Perfect or faithful? Perfection on your own merits is an illusion, but you can choose to be faithful.

Here’s a growing list of articles, posts, and resources to help you build strong faith. If you grow your faith, it will be a key to living an effective life. Enjoy!

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Push Your Faith: 5 Powerful Benefits Of Active Faith

How Challenging Your Faith To Grow Can Make All The Difference

If you want your faith to grow, you have to invest in it. If you want to build your faith, you have to push it and challenge it. There are actions you need to take. In fact, five very specific actions need to happen if your faith is going to become the foundation it has the potential to be.

Pushing your face is more than something you have the luxury of considering; It is something you must do for faith to grow.

For the next fifteen days, I’m personally going to be pushing my faith towards a specific goal. To reach my faith goal is going to require stretching on my part. It’s a goal I haven’t hit before.

I wonder if you have any life areas in which your faith needs to be stretched and challenged? My guess is you do.

So why aren’t you pushing, and challenging your faith? Most won’t do it because it involves work. We tend to disregard working on our faith because faith can feel like a mystical, spiritual sort of quality. However, at its core, faith is just belief. Faith is the choice to trust in something, someone, or some outcome that may seem distant or non-existent. Faith chooses to believe in God even though we can’t see him. It chooses to believe that our outcomes in life can be different, even against all the odds.

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Faith is very simple, but not always easy.

Growing your faith presents a challenge. My suggestion is: Rise to the challenge. Do it sooner rather than later.

To help you along the way I’d like to give you some specific tasks that will challenge your faith to grow. These actions will benefit you in so many ways, so don’t ignore them.

5 Powerful Benefits Of Exercising Your Faith

Resistance produces growth

Just like training for your physical body involves resistance, faith training also needs resistance. Don’t resist the resistance you feel in your faith.

Faith exercise is a choice. When problems come against you and believing for a good outcome seems hard is when you need to lean into the resistance. Lean into the difficulties. Lean into the burdens. Lean into those circumstances for which you have no answers. It seems counterintuitive to do so, but the resistance grows your faith every time. The fact is, faith is unnecessary if we have all the answers to our problems.

Pushing your faith moves it forward

My house is lively, to say the least. We (my wife and I) have two boys age seven and four. They keep us young and on our toes. When our boys have a disagreement, there are times when they push each other.

Siblings tend to do this. If you have a sibling, you’ve probably had an argument that involved pushing back and forth. Here’s how this relates to faith: When you don’t agree with the circumstances in your life, you need to push your faith and make it go forward.

We tend to retreat too soon. Maybe it feels easier to pull back rather than to push forward, but going forward is imperative to faith. You cannot accomplish anything with your faith gears shifted to “park.”

Don’t be afraid of pushing your faith. Challenge it to grow. Make it work for you. Faith is more than a simple belief in God; it is also a tool to be leveraged in your life.

God responds to active faith

There are two kinds of faith. Only one of them produces results. What are they? Active faith and passive faith.

Passive faith believes that God is real, that anything is possible, and that his word is true. Sounds good, but it lacks one thing. Active faith believes all these same truths, but active faith goes further. As the name implies, active faith acts on the truth it knows.

So allow me to ask you a question: What action are you taking on the truths you say you believe?

If you know that God is in control, why are you still worrying about everything? If the promises of God are true, why aren’t you putting them into practice in your life?

The Bible is full of principles. These are tools to be used, not just statements to believe. Belief and action need to partner up in your life. The reason is simple: God responds to active faith.

God doesn’t always respond to our needs, but he certainly responds when we take action on the promises of his word and utilize them in our life.

Faith in motion is easier to keep in motion

Once you’ve activated your faith and took action on the truth you believe, don’t stop. We are often tempted to take a rest, stop for awhile, and regroup our thoughts. It sounds logical, but when you’re in the middle of a faith battle, it is so much easier to keep going than to quit and start over. Push your faith, move it forward, and keep it in motion.

Driven faith produces results and glorifies God

I understand the reason for faith in God should simply be the fact that he IS God, but let’s face it, one reason you believe is that you need God’s help, right? Sure you do, and that’s OK.

God is our heavenly Father. We are supposed to rely on him for things. In fact, if you never ask for God’s help it’s a sure sign that you are too dependent on yourself. We call too much self-dependence, pride.

When faith is put to the test, it produces results. Jesus said we could ask for whatever we need. Sometimes our “whatever” involves tough, complex situations. These sort of circumstances produce active, growing faith in our heart. God responds to our faith under these conditions, and he brings results that glorify his name in our life.

Are there any areas of your life in which your faith needs to be pushed?
What actions could you take to move your faith forward and cause it to grow?

Here’s a growing list of articles, posts, and resources to help you build strong faith. If you grow your faith, it will be a key to living an effective life. Enjoy!

Faith Building Challenge

Sometimes we know we need a little push, but we can’t seem to do it on our own. My five-day faith building challenge is the little push you need to jump start your faith. In it, you will find easy, actionable, and strategic steps to help you build your faith. I would love the opportunity to help you along the way. To join the challenge, sign up below, and I’ll send you an email to get you started.