Spiritual Warfare: How To Fight And Win

Four Strategies To Overcome Your Spiritual Battles


Spiritual warfare is tough. It tends to press you and push your spiritual limits, and every spiritual battle requires faith to overcome. Now, I hesitate a little to write on this subject because some Christians take it too far. They see a devil behind every bush.

I don’t think it is right or healthy to focus day in and day out on what the devil is doing. Rather, your time and effort are much more productive if you keep your eyes fixed on Jesus and the plan of God for your life. He will direct you into the perfect path your life is meant to follow. Jesus will empower you to overcome in this life, and he will prepare you to live beyond this life.

Let me be clear: God is greater than all your enemies.

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There is no cosmic battle between God and the devil; there’s simply no contest. The devil is a created being who has his days numbered. Jesus defeated Satan ultimately and finally on the cross.

Winning at spiritual warfare will require that you have a firm grasp on these basic concepts. Otherwise your enemy will exploit your weaknesses and bring in fear.

With all this being said, every believer will face spiritual warfare in his or her life at some point. These battles are real, and they do have the potential to derail your spiritual progress…or worse. You need to take your battles seriously. If you have never faced something that qualifies as spiritual warfare, hold on, because sooner or later you will.

What qualifies as spiritual warfare?

Anything that brings doubt

Doubt will do its best to keep you from receiving all the good things God has for you. The enemy of your soul has a chief aim, and it is to throw your faith off course. However, I’m not saying that every little doubt is an indication of spiritual warfare. Questioning God about something isn’t the same thing as doubt. Sometimes your questions actually reveal your faith. When you firmly believe that God is going to do something in your life, and then it seems like he doesn’t do it, questions are the natural and normal response.

Doubt is different than questions. Doubt believes God cannot help you. It believes that your prayers won’t be answered. Doubt will make you hopeless in your situation. This sort of doubt is a form of spiritual warfare that openly attacks your faith. Faith is what moves God to action in your life, so doubt is a spiritual attack designed to keep you from the things God clearly intends for you to possess. Things like peace, joy, love, strength, and security are the objects of an attack on your faith. Doubt seeks to keep you from experiencing these qualities.

Anything that makes you want to quit

If you have ever felt the overwhelming urge just to give up, then you have experienced spiritual warfare designed to make you want to quit. The enemy wants you to quit on your relationships, so he will try to convince you that your friends, your spouse, or maybe your boss don’t need you or want you anymore. People quit on their relationships every single day. They quit jobs and marriages and churches but feel no freedom after they do so. The end goal of your enemy is to get you to quit on life. Whether that means you are taking your life, or just fading away into nothingness, the enemy is satisfied as long as you are out of the picture.

God didn’t design you to be a quitter, rather, you were created to be an overcomer. You are meant to press through spiritual warfare and experience victory.

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Anything that tempts you

So the most obvious form of spiritual warfare is temptation. Being tempted to disobey God is as old as humanity. When you are presented with something that tempts you, the answer is not to fight, but to flee. Whenever you begin to fight with temptation, you are keeping yourself near the source for a longer period. Christians are supposed to run away from the things that tempt them and run towards a life that closely follows Jesus.

Temptation can be tricky, however, because not every temptation comes as a result of spiritual warfare. The Bible is clear about this.

James 1:14–17 NLTse
14 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away.
15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.
16 So don’t be misled, my dear brothers and sisters.
17 Whatever is good and perfect is a gift coming down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens. He never changes or casts a shifting shadow.

Anything considered an attack on your character

When you experience emotions that come as a result of accusation or slander, you can be sure it is the devil’s work. Scripture calls Satan the accuser. I believe every spirit that works on satan’s team also uses his tactics.

Character attacks are spiritual warfare, whether these attacks come from outside sources like those you love and work with, or whether they just come from thoughts in your own mind.

The enemy wants to undermine the Godly qualities in your life. He will speak in your ear if you allow him to, and he will tell you how terrible you are. Condemnation and shame in a Christian’s life are the results of character attacks that we latch on to and believe.

These things are just a few forms of spiritual warfare. Certainly, there are much more.

What opens the door to attack?

For sure, the enemy doesn’t need any particular reason to attack you. Spiritual warfare happens in your life simply because the enemy wants to diminish your faith and witness, but there are a few things that can open the door and make attacking you easier.


Those who harbor evil thoughts about someone else is opening the door to the enemy. They are essentially allowing him freedom to come and go in their life as he wishes.

  • If you resent someone, you need to forgive them and close the door.
  • If you hate someone, you need to forgive them and close the door.
  • If you harbor hurt from someone, you need to forgive them and close the door.

Unforgiveness will rob you of joy and peace. It will leave the door of your heart open for the satan’s attack. Not only will he attack you, but the open door unforgiveness provides will allow the enemy time and space to plant more bitter seeds in your heart. These seeds will grow and eventually overtake your heart.

Forgive people you need to forgive even if they don’t respond, don’t listen, or don’t care. Forgiveness is about you not them.


Fear will always open you up to experience spiritual warfare in your life. Scripture says that “God has not given us a spirit of fear.” Fear does not come from God.

Some forms of fear are:

  • Constant worry about anything and everything.
  • Perfectionism that drives you to exhaustion because you are afraid you won’t be good enough.
  • Anger that derives from your fear of losing control.
  • Selfishness which is the fear of not having enough.

Fear doesn’t come from God, so remove it from your life. How do you do that? Again, I’ll defer to Scripture. The Bible says, “perfect love casts out fear.” The way to overcome fear is to lean into the love of God. When you have a deeply settled belief that God loves you, it will make fear vanish along with all its forms.

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What does NOT qualify as spiritual warfare?

Just as important as it is to recognize actual spiritual warfare, we must also understand what it is not.
Like I said at the start, some people see a devil behind every bush. This is a flawed perspective that will actually open the door for an attack in your life. So to understand what does not qualify, let me offer some examples.

Your water heater breaks down. This is not necessarily a spiritual battle. The devil probably didn’t take the time to find some way of breaking your water heater. Routine maintenance is a part of life no matter who you are.

You caught a cold. Now, I may get some pushback on this one, but I don’t believe the fact that you caught a cold is a form of spiritual warfare. Are there sicknesses that do qualify? Yes. Absolutely. Jesus paid the price for our healing with the stripes on his back and through his death on the cross. Anything that comes contrary to that is a spiritual attack. But balance is necessary for our understanding. We are human beings made of dust. It is only reasonable to think that we are bound to break down every once in a while. Plus, you reap what you sow. If you put yourself in a position to catch a cold, you probably will.

You had a bad week. Grow up. We all have bad weeks; even those who follow Jesus. The Christian life isn’t perfect. Things won’t go well for you all the time. This doesn’t mean the devil was hiding out to hijack your week and make a bunch of bad things happen to you. Is it possible? Sure. But not likely.

Now that there is a little clarity surrounding spiritual warfare let’s look at how actually to fight.

How to fight and win in spiritual warfare

Recognize your opposition

People are not your enemy. The devil wants you to believe they are, but it isn’t true. Here’s what Scripture says about it:

Ephesians 6:12 NLTse
12 For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.

Flesh and blood people are never your enemies. This doesn’t mean that Satan never uses people to press us, slander us, or just plain annoy us. He does. However, this is simply an attempt to throw you off the trail of the real enemy of your soul. Spiritual warfare is spiritual. It deals with spiritual things. This verse is plain in the fact that unseen spiritual authorities and evil spirits are the ones behind attacks in your life.

Prepare yourself for battle

Just before the scripture in Ephesians 6:12, the Bible says this:

Ephesians 6:10–11 NLTse
10 A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power.
11 Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil.

There is a strategy the devil is using against you. To overcome this strategy, there is one essential thing to do: Be strong IN the Lord.
You are not meant to fight your own battles. Spiritual warfare is won as we stand IN the Lord. Standing in the Lord means allowing him the space needed to accomplish his purposes in you. It also means maintaining a defensive position wearing the armor of God, but relying on HIS strength instead of your own.
The greatest battle you and I have to win is the battle to allow God the opportunity to fight for us.

Fight spiritual battles with spiritual weapons

Now, I know I just said that we don’t fight, and that is true; but there are moments in which we have to take on an offensive or defensive mindset. Too many people wage war against other people by defending themselves or lashing out, but that’s not the way to fight. Spiritual warfare is won as you strike in the Spirit.

I believe there are two main ways to strike in the Spirit:
– Prayer
– Declaring God’s Word

Prayer can be used as an offensive or defensive weapon. Never underestimate the simple prayer that asks God for help. It is an example of defensive prayer. Offensive prayer is the sort that asks God to move mountains and then believes he will. It is praying for healing, asking for a breakthrough, seeking God for help with emotional hurt and things like this. Praying is simply talking to God, but using prayer as a weapon is talking to God with a mission.

When experiencing spiritual warfare, prayer is your number one key to winning. It draws you nearer to Jesus and puts distance between you and your enemy.

Declaring God’s Word is essential. When you declare God’s Word, it will open your find for faith to grow. We tend to believe what we hear spoken most often. Scripture agrees with this when it says, “faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God.” The truth of God’s Word has the power and potential to change your situation and surroundings. As you stand on it by declaring it over your life, the attack has to bow and bend to the truth. I created a PDF Guide with twenty-five things you can declare over your life and the scriptures that go with them. It will help you, and I want to give it to you free.
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Recognize the battlefield

For a believer or anyone for that matter, the spiritual battlefield is in your mind. If you can keep the battlefield of your mind secure, you’ll win the war. How do you do that? You have to take the bad thoughts captive, cast them out, and replace them with thoughts from God’s Word. Doing this is closely tied to your declaration.

Scripture says this:

2 Corinthians 10:4–5 NIV
4 The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds.
5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

I want to encourage you today. If you’re going through a difficult season right now, you CAN overcome it. God is on your side.
Put some of these ideas into practice, and you’ll begin to see a difference almost immediately.

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The Serenity Prayer: Use It To Unlock Faith’s Best Kept Secret

Pray This Classic Prayer To Shine A Light In Your Darkness


We’ve all had those moments when our life seems to be in the dark. You seek direction, clarity, anything to point the way. It’s in these scenarios that you can feel the void of faith like somehow God is a million miles away. But faith has a secret that most people won’t tell you about, and that’s what I want to share with you.

Here is faith’s best-kept secret: Faith is about walking in the dark.

No one wants to hear this fact about faith. I’ll admit that I’d rather not write about it. We had much rather think of faith as something that makes things in our life cheerful, peaceful, and serene.

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For complete transparency’s sake, allow me to say that I do believe faith in your life will produce these feelings at some point. Faith always lifts us into a greater place with God, just not always at first.

Often faith involves working, praying, and sorting things out during the dark times of your life. These situations are where the serenity prayer unlocks the secret of faith. It helps you pray the right prayer in the dark times.

The serenity prayer is well known and often quoted. It begins with these words:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

Are there things in life that you cannot change? Yes. Absolutely.
Faith helps us to accept that God has a plan. There are nuances of his plan that we don’t understand, and frankly, there are portions of his plan we probably want to change.

Not everything works out the way you thought it would, but this is when faith is most necessary. The reason faith is so closely linked to trust is that you have to operate it in the dark. You have to hold God’s hand and trust that he is leading you and guiding you.

The serenity prayer reminds us that we have to develop the wisdom to see that some things work out how you desire and other things don’t.

You won’t be able to see all the outcomes you would like to see at the beginning of your journey. But these moments of trust have a powerful impact when it comes to faith building. They are irreplaceable.

As I look back over my life to this point, I see things from a different perspective. On the one hand, faith is absolutely about walking in the dark. Faith is about being comfortable in the dark, walking through the unknown, and relying on God to steer you clear of anything that would harm you. But on the other hand, it is about looking into your heart and focusing your gaze on the light.

If you’re following Jesus Christ, darkness may be all around you; but God’s light is burning inside of you. You need to look at the light.

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Now, allow me to be transparent again: Following Jesus and looking at the light still won’t necessarily reveal everything you want to see about your situation. His light is too bright. It washes out everything except himself.

Whether you are focusing on the light or stumbling in the darkness, following Jesus is always about trust. But if you just trust and follow, God will lead you to a place where you can gain perspective. When you let God’s light inside of you shine, you can look back and see how far you’ve come.

You may not see everything ahead, but the light will clearly show what God has brought you through. It is a perspective of faith that brings peace, joy, and serenity.
So, you probably know the first part of the Serenity prayer, but there is more to it.


The Serenity Prayer

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,

Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,

Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,

So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.

In the end, if you will continue holding on to your faith, you will have the opportunity to see those things that you have trusted God about, begin actually to take shape.

It isn’t easy to have faith sometimes, but the Serenity Prayer helps us to remember that hardships really can be the path to peace, and that if we do surrender to God’s will he will work out everything for us along the journey.

Faith is about:

  • Walking in the dark.
  • Looking inside our heart to see the light.
  • Stopping to look back and see where we’ve been.
  • Holding on for what lies ahead.
  • Trusting God for the outcome.

Question: What are you trusting God for during the dark times of your life?

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Faith Building Challenge

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Push Your Faith: 5 Powerful Benefits Of Active Faith

How Challenging Your Faith To Grow Can Make All The Difference


If you want your faith to grow, you have to invest in it. If you want to build your faith, you have to push it and challenge it. There are actions you need to take. In fact, five very specific actions need to happen if your faith is going to become the foundation it has the potential to be.

Pushing your face is more than something you have the luxury of considering; It is something you must do for faith to grow.

For the next fifteen days, I’m personally going to be pushing my faith towards a specific goal. To reach my faith goal is going to require stretching on my part. It’s a goal I haven’t hit before.

I wonder if you have any life areas in which your faith needs to be stretched and challenged? My guess is you do.

So why aren’t you pushing, and challenging your faith? Most won’t do it because it involves work. We tend to disregard working on our faith because faith can feel like a mystical, spiritual sort of quality. However, at its core, faith is just belief. Faith is the choice to trust in something, someone, or some outcome that may seem distant or non-existent. Faith chooses to believe in God even though we can’t see him. It chooses to believe that our outcomes in life can be different, even against all the odds.

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Faith is very simple, but not always easy.

Growing your faith presents a challenge. My suggestion is: Rise to the challenge. Do it sooner rather than later.

To help you along the way I’d like to give you some specific tasks that will challenge your faith to grow. These actions will benefit you in so many ways, so don’t ignore them.

5 Powerful Benefits Of Exercising Your Faith

Resistance produces growth

Just like training for your physical body involves resistance, faith training also needs resistance. Don’t resist the resistance you feel in your faith.

Faith exercise is a choice. When problems come against you and believing for a good outcome seems hard is when you need to lean into the resistance. Lean into the difficulties. Lean into the burdens. Lean into those circumstances for which you have no answers. It seems counterintuitive to do so, but the resistance grows your faith every time. The fact is, faith is unnecessary if we have all the answers to our problems.

Pushing your faith moves it forward

My house is lively, to say the least. We (my wife and I) have two boys age seven and four. They keep us young and on our toes. When our boys have a disagreement, there are times when they push each other.

Siblings tend to do this. If you have a sibling, you’ve probably had an argument that involved pushing back and forth. Here’s how this relates to faith: When you don’t agree with the circumstances in your life, you need to push your faith and make it go forward.

We tend to retreat too soon. Maybe it feels easier to pull back rather than to push forward, but going forward is imperative to faith. You cannot accomplish anything with your faith gears shifted to “park.”

Don’t be afraid of pushing your faith. Challenge it to grow. Make it work for you. Faith is more than a simple belief in God; it is also a tool to be leveraged in your life.

God responds to active faith

There are two kinds of faith. Only one of them produces results. What are they? Active faith and passive faith.

Passive faith believes that God is real, that anything is possible, and that his word is true. Sounds good, but it lacks one thing. Active faith believes all these same truths, but active faith goes further. As the name implies, active faith acts on the truth it knows.

So allow me to ask you a question: What action are you taking on the truths you say you believe?

If you know that God is in control, why are you still worrying about everything? If the promises of God are true, why aren’t you putting them into practice in your life?

The Bible is full of principles. These are tools to be used, not just statements to believe. Belief and action need to partner up in your life. The reason is simple: God responds to active faith.

God doesn’t always respond to our needs, but he certainly responds when we take action on the promises of his word and utilize them in our life.

Faith in motion is easier to keep in motion

Once you’ve activated your faith and took action on the truth you believe, don’t stop. We are often tempted to take a rest, stop for awhile, and regroup our thoughts. It sounds logical, but when you’re in the middle of a faith battle, it is so much easier to keep going than to quit and start over. Push your faith, move it forward, and keep it in motion.

Driven faith produces results and glorifies God

I understand the reason for faith in God should simply be the fact that he IS God, but let’s face it, one reason you believe is that you need God’s help, right? Sure you do, and that’s OK.

God is our heavenly Father. We are supposed to rely on him for things. In fact, if you never ask for God’s help it’s a sure sign that you are too dependent on yourself. We call too much self-dependence, pride.

When faith is put to the test, it produces results. Jesus said we could ask for whatever we need. Sometimes our “whatever” involves tough, complex situations. These sort of circumstances produce active, growing faith in our heart. God responds to our faith under these conditions, and he brings results that glorify his name in our life.

Are there any areas of your life in which your faith needs to be pushed?
What actions could you take to move your faith forward and cause it to grow?

Here’s a growing list of articles, posts, and resources to help you build strong faith. If you grow your faith, it will be a key to living an effective life. Enjoy!

Faith Building Challenge

Sometimes we know we need a little push, but we can’t seem to do it on our own. My five-day faith building challenge is the little push you need to jump start your faith. In it, you will find easy, actionable, and strategic steps to help you build your faith. I would love the opportunity to help you along the way. To join the challenge, sign up below, and I’ll send you an email to get you started.


Leadership is hard + 6 more secrets leaders won’t admit

Learn The Real Truth About Serving In Leadership


Leadership is hard. Really hard.
You read that right. Though there are incentives to lead and often perks that go along with influence, it doesn’t make being a leader any less challenging.

Leadership and the influence it carries has a way of isolating those who use it to serve. Many who serve in positions of influence feel the weight of responsibility, but also the loneliness that tends to come with it.

Some have said, if a position of influence is a lonely place, then it proves you have done something wrong. Maybe you’ve structured your leadership in a way that couldn’t help but push you to the front, and now you find yourself alone, carrying the burden, shouldering the load.

Frankly, there are situations in which this is true, but I believe for the majority, it is not.

The vast majority of leaders will exercise their influence in small or medium sized organizations or settings where the structure is already set up to push them into this isolation. Indeed, we find this in many small to medium sized churches where the pastor is pressed into a place of isolation because it’s simply the way things are (I’m not saying things should stay this way).

But we also see this influence issue going on with many other types of people and circumstances. By the way, if you are a Christian, then you ARE a leader by default. The reason being that Jesus has called all of us to influence and affect the lives of people around us.

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Your life has a tremendous impact that you might not even realize, and you should use your influence for the purpose of raising up, building up, and encouraging those around you, whether family or friends. However, as the title of this article states, “leadership is hard.”

Leadership is hard for the single moms and dads who are doing their very best to lead and influence their children. It is hard for the little league coaches who have to do everything right, so they don’t upset all the people who are “on their team.” Leadership is hard for the business owners who have to choose to do things right in a world that invariably pushes you to get ahead by doing things wrong. Leadership is hard for the school teachers who do their best to display their faith in an environment of ever-increasing hostility towards religion.

And yes, leadership is hard for those of us in the ministry who must choose to be leaders of influence and integrity even if our stands make us feel isolated, weighted, or conflicted.

This post is an attempt to open up to other leaders, no matter the size of your circle of influence, and let you know you are NOT alone.

The burden you carry is common to us ALL. We all feel it…take courage in this my friend.

Let me be clear, I love being a leader, and I love being a pastor, but influence comes with hardships. They are part of the package. Now, this isn’t a complaint, though at first, it might seem to be, rather it is a simple observation. Moreover, it is something I’ve personally experienced.

So allow me to pull back the curtain and reveal some secrets that most leaders and people of influence will never want to share.

Leadership is hard + 6 more secrets leaders won’t admit


Leadership is hard.

I know I’ve already mentioned this one, but it’s the main point. In so many ways, a leader has to do things that they often feel ill-equipped to handle. Whether the situation is in ministry, social settings, or even the secular world. Godly leaders are not immune to hardship.

Scripture bears this out through the greatest leader who ever lived.

Jesus faced all sorts of problems, questions, decisions, and even death. Did he always know the right answers or the right direction? That question could be an in-depth discussion, one that I’m not going to take the time to pursue in this article. But let me offer this thought…Jesus prayed about everything.

If Jesus, the One who become God in the flesh, had to take the time to refill his leadership bucket through prayer, it should speak volumes to us.

Most leaders want to quit. (At some point)

Have you ever had a “quitting moment?” I have. In fact, I’ve had many over the years.

Most leaders will want to quit at some point. The load is just too big for them. The problems feel too immense. There are going to be those who suffer difficulties in relationships. Misunderstandings abound in leadership.

If you’re a leader who sees quitting as the best option, you’re in good company.

One time I had the opportunity to hear a great pastor say, “You can want to quit. You can dream of quitting. You can plan on quitting. But don’t quit.”

There are moments in which you need to let your mind realize that you don’t have to do what you’re doing. You really can quit anytime you want to. But after you’ve indulged that thought for a moment, you simply have to make a strong new resolve not to quit.

The truth is quitting for real won’t get you anywhere. So don’t do it. Use it as the final option. We know from scripture that all influence is positioned and ordained from God. That means your influence and position came from Him too. Don’t be so quick to give up because of something that will pass.

Leaders often don’t have the answers they need.

I believe one of the reasons leaders want to quit, is because they think they should have all the answers.

Look, you don’t have all the answers, and you never will. Exercising influence is an action of faith. You have to trust God to LEAD YOU. Leaders don’t just influence, they must BE influenced.

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As a person of influence, whether you’re a parent, spouse, pastor, business person, or anything else, you have to allow yourself to be influenced. Certainly, the greatest influence in your life should be God.

He leads us through his word and prayer, but also through other believers. God leads you to open your mind to new ideas contained in books and articles like this one. You are also influenced by the company you keep.

All through the Bible, you find great men and women of God, seeking direction in the midst of the fog. They needed clarity and were not afraid to ask for it.

Listen…at the moment you may be up against an obstacle you don’t know how to overcome, and that’s OK. If you think about it, leadership is all about the unknown.

For example, think about explorers who are literally cutting a trail through the forest. Invariably someone is pushed to the front of the line. Everyone behind them can walk on a cleared path, but the leader is the one making the trail. By definition, leadership means you don’t always see the way ahead of you clearly. There are no waymarkers saying, “do this, go here, choose this way.” You have to get comfortable trusting God in the unknown.

Faith and trust in God are the language of leadership and influence.

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Leadership is very lonely.

No one wants to admit a weakness. We run from showing our faults and being real, but when it comes to leadership you’ve probably already found out that loneliness is part of the deal.

I think there’s a clear reason this is so. Leadership and positions of influence require responsibility, and most people simply won’t be responsible.

Leadership is lonely because of the decisions, the weight, the responsibility, and the cost. But you have to remember, as a believer, you are NEVER really alone.

I know, I know…God is always with us. If you are feeling alone right now, and sincerely desiring to quit, then you most likely don’t want to hear this. Several years ago, I felt the same.

There was one season of my life that pressed my leadership to its limit. I didn’t think I could go on. In fact, I was looking into every possibility of getting out.
But you know what? Along came God, and what he did surprised me. He didn’t encourage me at first, but instead, he broke me. So much so that he broke open my heart. I still remember the hot tears filling my eyes and rolling down my cheeks as I broke before God.

The reason he breaks us is to open our heart. To fix your loneliness, God must be able to get inside your heart and move things around. He wants access to the damaged and messed up parts of your life in order to fix them.

I will never forget the day God worked on my heart, because not only did it restore my faith and trust in him, but it also reignited my desire to lead others. Never since have I wanted to quit because I felt alone. I know he is with me and I know he’ll be with you too.

People often don’t see the work of leadership.

Let’s face it, you can’t see a leadership burden, can you? You can’t see the weight of responsibility that you feel. Others can’t see the prayers you pray, the nights of thinking and planning you do, or the desire to help people that you always feel in your heart.

You got into leadership to help people, but often that work goes largely unseen. A leader’s work is performed in a million little ways that, in the end, add up to something significant.

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It’s hard to see your influence, until you see the effects of it.

So, it seems leaders are doomed to do work that goes unnoticed. If you feel this way, you are not alone. Practically every leader or influencer who ever lived has felt this way at one time or another.

If this speaks to you, you need to hang on to this one simple thought: What’s done in the dark is always revealed by the light.

What you’ve done is NEVER unnoticed. The Bible says, “God is NOT unrighteous to forget your work and labor of love” that you’ve shown for him. Everything you do is marked down in his book.

Hebrews 6:10 – For God is not unjust to forget your work and labor of love which you have shown toward His name, in that you have ministered to the saints, and do minister.

The truth is, again, leadership is hard, and the work of leadership takes time to bear fruit. People don’t see your work, but if you keep at it, they WILL see the fruit of your labor.

I used to wrestle over this when I was in my twenties. However, I’ve come to realize that my work will prove itself in time.

Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t hope for some appreciation because you should. You should be appreciated for the work you do because leadership is hard work.

I’ve learned to cut leaders some slack because I now understand that no one knows what they are facing.

I also know, because I’ve experienced it, that if you continue to plant good seeds, you’ll reap good fruit. Rest in the fact that God sees your work and he will openly reward you for it. For the record, the reward isn’t always what we though it might be.

God knows best how to appreciate those who labor in leadership for him. Whether as a Christian parent or as a middle school teacher who wants to influence their students with positive, faith-filled environments, God sees and will reward your work.

Influence derives from character.

I’ve never met a godly leader who tried to school me about how great his or her character is. Character doesn’t boast.

Nevertheless, if you are a leader who raises people up, builds them up, and encourages them to go forward, you possess character qualities which allow you to continue doing what you’re doing.

Influence doesn’t come from a position. A title comes from position. But titles and influence are entirely different from one another, though they don’t have to be.

If you are a leader that wants to increase your influence, you need to work on your character. One of the secrets of great leaders is that they are people of great character.

Who you are will win out over who you hope to be…it’s the law of character.

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Let me ask you a simple question: What actions could you take to move your character forward?

Are there habits that you need to form or relationships that you need to sever? Quite possibly I’m sure.
Think about it, if influence derives from character, then instead of reading another leadership book to learn some new method of persuasion, why not begin working on the thing that matters most. Your character.

Leaders cannot depend on their personal strength.

This is the most important secret that leadership conferences and books will never tell you unless they are based on the right principles.

So often we try to do things ourselves, to fix our own problems, to right our own wrongs, or to turn things around by our own power, but you simply can’t.

The secret to lasting leadership and influence is learning to depend on the strength, power, and help of Jesus.

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Secular leaders will shun this idea.

Frankly, you CAN lead by your personal power for a season; no one ever said you couldn’t. Eventually, though, you’ll run out of steam when you lead through only your personal power or ability.

All power is given. Contrary to what we might think or believe that we see, power is never grabbed, taken, or robbed. Power is ONLY given. The source of all power is God. He is the center of everything. So this means godly leaders must rely on the genuine source of power if they are to succeed (the definition of success is an entirely different subject).

Your dependence on God is a clear sign of the strength of your relationship with God.

Let me ask you another question: How is your relationship with God doing?

What actions could you take to move your relationship with God to a new level? Everything about godly leadership stems from this one thing.

I encourage you to ease your stress by giving it away to the one who was meant to carry it in the first place.

I sincerely hope you’ve heard my heart in this post. You are a great leader. Don’t allow the wrong thinking, discouragement, and weight to drag you down.

We need you.

Faith Building Challenge

I would love to have the opportunity to help you build your faith. It’s possible to grow in faith, and if you do, your influence will grow with it. Won’t you take the five day Faith Building Challenge? It is free, and I believe taking a few simple strategic steps will help you start building your faith like never before. I hope you will.

Faith Building Challenge

How To Keep Failure From Ruining Your Life

5 Ways To Overcome Failure And Feel Guilt-Free


​OK, let me ask you a question: ​Do you ever feel like you’ve failed? 

​I ask that question because many of us constantly feel like we come up short in the “getting-it-right” department.

We make plans to do better, help more, be kinder, live stronger, be healthier, work on our relationships, but in the end, we somehow always seem to mess things up. ​Do you ever feel like that?​

I know that I do.

As much as I would love to eradicate failure so that I never failed at anything again, I know I can’t. Failure is something that is common. Last week or the previous weekend may hold things you wish you could change. You may sense a nagging guilt about those areas where you feel failure has occurred in your life.

Certainly, failure can be damaging to us, but I want to give you some good news: ​Your response to failure is your choice.

​Failures will happen, but it’s how you respond on the other side of failure that makes the greatest difference in how the failure affects your life.

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You can wallow in it, feel guilty about it, or hate yourself for it, whatever your go-to response usually is, but none of those things will fix your failure.

On the other hand, you could remember this:

Lamentations 3:21–23 NLTse

21 Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this:

22 The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease.

23 Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning.

The thing I find hopeful about this short passage of scripture is that EVERY DAY is a new day as far as God is concerned.

Now, if you feel like you’ve ​sinned in some way​, then confess it, and turn from it, because God’s mercy is new and it is there for you.

If you feel like you’ve failed in your relationships, ask God to help you change and do better.

If you’ve let yourself down in some area in which you hoped to achieve more or create greater accomplishment, just know that God is still for you and today is a new start. This week is a new start.

Here’s the deal: ​God WILL BE faithful to help you this week IF you let Him.

​Whatever has held you back is simply a hurdle. You can climb it, jump it, walk around it, or ask God to move it. One of these options will work, I promise if you just don’t quit on yourself.


So, here’s the action plan for failure you need to take after you feel like you’ve failed:

  1. ​Ask God to forgive you. – God forgives sin. He forgives failure of ALL kinds.
  2. Forgive yourself. – This one is so important, because if we don’t forgive ourselves when we fail, we will continue to keep reliving our failures in our mind. These thoughts will put your life in a spiral of failure. To not forgive yourself after God has forgiven you is a trap that will ensnare your life, soul, and future.
  3. Forgive others. – Don’t hold grudges. Period. You have to get over the things you feel others have done to you. Holding grudges will plant bitter seeds that grow bitter roots. In the end, holding a grudge will produce a bitter heart. Since our life flows from our heart, our life will begin to become bitter as well.
  4. Make a change. – This advice may seem a little simplistic, but, with God’s help, you can always change. He will work something new into your life if you allow Him to. Ask God to help you change. Use the Bible as a tool to renew and change the way you think, because it will.
  5. Ask for God’s help daily. – Overcoming failure is a daily process, not a one-time fix. You’re going to need to continue in your new found change. You may have to forgive people more than once. You might even have to keep a list of people you need to forgive and do it daily. Whatever it takes to keep change alive, do it. Ask God for His strength. Pray that He will empower you in the process because He will.

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Let me share three verses with you that I’m very thankful for:

Ephesians 2:8–10 NLTse

8 God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God.

9 Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it.

10 For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.​

God’s grace is present for you today. He’s already provided it to you, and if you only believe this promise, you can have complete access to grace.

No matter how much good (or bad) you’ve done, you can’t gain God’s favor. He gives it as a gift. Simple belief in this promise will create a new life for you.

It will embolden you and empower you to overcome failure, to do good, and to be the person you hope to be.

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Here’s a growing list of articles, posts, and resources to help you build strong faith. If you grow your faith, it will be a key to living an effective life. Enjoy!