How To Not Be A Spiritually Passive Parent

Parents lose their spiritual influence with their children if they’re not careful…But you don’t have to. You love your kids. You probably wouldn’t be reading this post if you didn’t. But when it comes to leading their life in the right direction…you can’t afford to be passive.

Leading your children in the direction that God wants to take their life is an active process. It goes deeper than just being present or spending time with them. You have to do more than show up at their games or listen to their stories. All that is important…Don’t get me wrong…but…those things aren’t the most important determining factor. Being a fun, outgoing, friendly parent isn’t necessarily the fix either.

If you want to actively influence your child, you need to pray for them.

The single most powerful thing a parent can do is pray for their child.

Praying for your children is literally a way that you can help write the story of their life. The reason that’s true is simple. Every time you pray for your child you are influencing him or her in ways that go beyond words. Through prayer you have the opportunity to shape, mold, and  create your child’s outlook and perspective on life.

As a parent you have the chance to pray for:

  • God’s protection over you child’s life.
  • For God to influence their direction in life. (whether they are young or older)
  • The power of God to fill their life.
  • For the plan of God to be accomplished in their life.
  • For God’s purpose to prevail in your child’s life.

These sorts of prayers are the greatest determining factor for your child’s future. As a parent you have the awesome responsibility that comes with being given a position of great authority in your child’s life.

God has given parents spiritual authority over their children.

Don’t take that lightly…It is a responsibility that carries consequences. Use your God given authority to direct and guide your kids through your prayers. Your prayer for your kids is the seed bed of opportunity in their life. Be encouraged because your prayers matter. Prayers are the single most influential thing a parent can invest in their child.

You’ll always be your kid’s parent. Whether they are young or old doesn’t matter…you are their parent…your spiritual authority in their life doesn’t diminish with age or time. Long after you’ve lost control over their life, you’ll still have authority in it. Why? Because it’s what God has given you. That authority is activated when you pray for them.

Mark Batterson, pastor of National Community Church says…

You’ll never be a perfect parent; but you can be a praying parent.

In fact, scripture says this:

Lamentations 2:19

19 Rise during the night and cry out. Pour out your hearts like water to the Lord. Lift up your hands to him in prayer, pleading for your children, for in every street they are faint with hunger.

Here’s what to do:

1.) Pray about, what to pray about.

Ask God what the most specific and powerful needs are in your child’s life (no matter what age) and pray for that.

2.) Ask God to give you a specific scripture to pray over your child.

God has a promise in His Word for your child. Once you get ahold of that promise…pray that scripture like crazy over them!

3.) Pray for your children in person.

This is powerful. Some parents won’t do this because they lack confidence; but I encourage you to do it when you can. Why?:

  • They can hear you and it encourages them. (no matter what age they are)
  • You can lay your hands on them. – Laying on hands is scriptural…it’s a point of contact. If they are older and won’t let you do this, you could even lay your hands on their picture as a point of contact…just an idea.
  • Anoint them with oil. – This is another scriptural practice. Oil is a symbol of the Holy Spirit.
  • You can agree together with them in prayer. – This is true even if your child is young. If they can understand, they can agree.
  • By praying in person, you are literally planting the language of prayer into their heart.

4.) Pray for God to give them a vision for their life.

God will answer that prayer. He’s given you the authority to pray it.

Don’t be a passive parent when it comes to spiritual things. Use the authority that God has given you and watch God do amazing things in your child’s life. Believe it or not…God loves your kids more than you do…and if you let Him He’ll use you to make a difference in their life!

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Larry Shankle is a pastor, author, and blogger. He helps people get clarity and direction in their calling, purpose, dreams, and leadership.

Larry and his wife (Amanda) live in the Arkansas river valley with their two boys (Braxton and Dawson). He has spent almost two decades in active local church ministry serving in multiple leadership roles. Larry has spent the last six and a half years serving as Lead Pastor of GrandviewChurch in Natural Dam, AR.

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