One Habit That Will Immediately Improve Your Relationships

How the art of being a lid lifter can change your life

How to become a lid lifter

So yesterday I was unloading supplies at our church, and something caught my attention.

It was a little sticker on top of a chili can, and it made me stop and think. As soon as I saw the sticker, I knew God was reminding me of something, and I decided to blog about it.

Here’s the sticker…


I want to remind you that you are a lid lifter in someone’s life. Even if you feel discouraged yourself, one of the best ways to overcome discouragement is to start lifting another person’s lid.

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Everyone has “handles” in their life that serve as places where we can pick people up. How many times have you felt like you needed a lift, but there was no one there to lift you? If you’ve ever felt that way, why not be the solution to another person’s problem and lift them up.

Maybe an encouraging word would serve to lift them up just a bit…give one.
If lending them a hand at work would help…give a hand.
Even if you can’t see what to do to help someone, maybe just say a prayer for them and then tell them you did.

People just want to be encouraged and lifted when life beats them down, so why not be the person who makes a difference and does these things? It usually requires a small amount time but makes a world of difference.

Here’s what I hope you will do today:

Look for the “pull tabs” in someone’s life.

Look for those places in their life you can use to open them up and breathe in a breath of fresh air. Sometimes people bottle up their pressures and problems until they reach the exploding point. If you are close to someone, take some time today to help them release the tension they have. If you care about them, you don’t want to see them explode.

Look for the “handles” in someone’s life.

If you take the time to look close enough, you’ll see the “handles” you can use to lift someone up. Be willing to do this, because one day you’ll need lifting too. Planting seeds of kindness, help, and love, in someone’s life, will always create a harvest that comes back. When you help others out of a genuine heart of kindness, it’ll come back to you multiplied.

Look for ways to be a lid lifter.

I first remember reading this term in a John Maxwell leadership book. It made a great impression on me, because up to that point, I only focused on myself mostly. What a pointless way to live…just focused on yourself. Putting other people first makes you feel good and offers you a way to input God’s love into their life. So look for ways to lift someone’s lid today.

Let me ask you a question:
How much would it mean to you if someone came along and helped you out today? It might mean the difference between quitting or continuing.

If you want to improve all of your relationships, be a lid lifter.

You can’t help everybody, but you can always help somebody.
Be the difference. Be a lid lifter.

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Larry Shankle is a pastor, author, and blogger. He helps people get clarity and direction in their calling, purpose, dreams, and leadership.

Larry and his wife (Amanda) live in the Arkansas river valley with their two boys (Braxton and Dawson). He has spent almost two decades in active local church ministry serving in multiple leadership roles. Larry has spent the last six and a half years serving as Lead Pastor of GrandviewChurch in Natural Dam, AR.

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