How To Keep Failure From Ruining Your Life

5 Ways To Overcome Failure And Feel Guilt-Free

​OK, let me ask you a question: ​Do you ever feel like you’ve failed? 

​I ask that question because many of us constantly feel like we come up short in the “getting-it-right” department.

We make plans to do better, help more, be kinder, live stronger, be healthier, work on our relationships, but in the end, we somehow always seem to mess things up. ​Do you ever feel like that?​

I know that I do.

As much as I would love to eradicate failure so that I never failed at anything again, I know I can’t. Failure is something that is common. Last week or the previous weekend may hold things you wish you could change. You may sense a nagging guilt about those areas where you feel failure has occurred in your life.

Certainly, failure can be damaging to us, but I want to give you some good news: ​Your response to failure is your choice.

​Failures will happen, but it’s how you respond on the other side of failure that makes the greatest difference in how the failure affects your life.

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You can wallow in it, feel guilty about it, or hate yourself for it, whatever your go-to response usually is, but none of those things will fix your failure.

On the other hand, you could remember this:

Lamentations 3:21–23 NLTse

21 Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this:

22 The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease.

23 Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning.

The thing I find hopeful about this short passage of scripture is that EVERY DAY is a new day as far as God is concerned.

Now, if you feel like you’ve ​sinned in some way​, then confess it, and turn from it, because God’s mercy is new and it is there for you.

If you feel like you’ve failed in your relationships, ask God to help you change and do better.

If you’ve let yourself down in some area in which you hoped to achieve more or create greater accomplishment, just know that God is still for you and today is a new start. This week is a new start.

Here’s the deal: ​God WILL BE faithful to help you this week IF you let Him.

​Whatever has held you back is simply a hurdle. You can climb it, jump it, walk around it, or ask God to move it. One of these options will work, I promise if you just don’t quit on yourself.

So, here’s the action plan for failure you need to take after you feel like you’ve failed:

  1. ​Ask God to forgive you. – God forgives sin. He forgives failure of ALL kinds.
  2. Forgive yourself. – This one is so important, because if we don’t forgive ourselves when we fail, we will continue to keep reliving our failures in our mind. These thoughts will put your life in a spiral of failure. To not forgive yourself after God has forgiven you is a trap that will ensnare your life, soul, and future.
  3. Forgive others. – Don’t hold grudges. Period. You have to get over the things you feel others have done to you. Holding grudges will plant bitter seeds that grow bitter roots. In the end, holding a grudge will produce a bitter heart. Since our life flows from our heart, our life will begin to become bitter as well.
  4. Make a change. – This advice may seem a little simplistic, but, with God’s help, you can always change. He will work something new into your life if you allow Him to. Ask God to help you change. Use the Bible as a tool to renew and change the way you think, because it will.
  5. Ask for God’s help daily. – Overcoming failure is a daily process, not a one-time fix. You’re going to need to continue in your new found change. You may have to forgive people more than once. You might even have to keep a list of people you need to forgive and do it daily. Whatever it takes to keep change alive, do it. Ask God for His strength. Pray that He will empower you in the process because He will.

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Let me share three verses with you that I’m very thankful for:

Ephesians 2:8–10 NLTse

8 God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God.

9 Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it.

10 For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.​

God’s grace is present for you today. He’s already provided it to you, and if you only believe this promise, you can have complete access to grace.

No matter how much good (or bad) you’ve done, you can’t gain God’s favor. He gives it as a gift. Simple belief in this promise will create a new life for you.

It will embolden you and empower you to overcome failure, to do good, and to be the person you hope to be.

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Your turning point in difficult times

If you are fighting a battle…know that God is FOR YOU, WITH YOU, AND WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU…

Battles are simply a part of the life of a believer…


because you have an enemy
because the enemy wants to defame God
because if the enemy can cause you to fall it will affect others also
Believe it or not…your life is important to many people…
and what goes on in your life always affects, not only you, but other people surrounding you…

when I first gave my life to Jesus…it seemed like there was a length of time where everything was good…

For me, I have looked back at that time over and over again…and it amounted to about a 9 month time span. A beginner’s grace period.

during that time:

My prayers seemed alive at every moment
God’s presence was always strong
The Bible came alive to me
There wasn’t an enemy in sight
If you are not careful…you’ll get the idea that THIS IS HOW THE LIFE OF BELIEVER REALLY IS…
Here’s the deal…God promises peace that passes understanding, but sometimes that peace is in the middle of the storm!

Since that “grace period”, other things have happened:
I’ve prayed prayers that were difficult and drenched with pain and tears
God’s presence hasn’t always been tangible…and I’ve had to LIVE BY FAITH
The Bible has become something to cling to for safety and strength
Enemies surround constantly
Don’t get me wrong…God is GOOD…but LIFE IS REAL…and BATTLES ARE REAL…
We must learn to FACE THE BATTLES. 

I think that most people probably had a similar experience in the start of their spiritual walk with God…

and honestly the reason that some people never seem to be fighting anything is because they are really no threat to the army of the enemy…

We need to understand that it really is true that if you are no threat…you probably won’t be in battle often…but if your life poses no threat to the enemy then you are not being obedient to God either…!!


Every battle has a starting point
Every battle has an ending point
Every battle has a turning point
Now…Let me ask you a question…
 As a believer your turning point and my turning point in the middle of our battles has to do with us letting the Lord fight our battles…
***The turning point in battle is turning the battle to the Lord***
We need to understand that the stakes in any battle that we face are high…but that God is higher…!!
God wants you to win the battles that you face more than you can ever imagine…
 ***The turning point in battle is turning the battle to the Lord***
The Bible talks about a specific battle in the Old Testament that is often quoted but rarely ever copied…
It’s this battle and the principles that we see in it that will help us to TURN OUR BATTLES TO THE LORD…

Jehosaphat was one of the few…very few…Kings recorded in the Old Testament that followed God…

He was a Godly man…This story is recorded during the time of the divided Kingdom…

There was Israel on one side…full of evil kings…and on the other side was the tribe of Judah which was carrying on the royal line of david from which Jesus was going to come as promised by the Lord…

God had promised that the “throne of David will last forever”…

Jehosaphat and the land of Judah suddenly find themselves about to be UNDER ATTACK by not one but three invading nations…



2 Chronicles 20:1-4,10-12 (NLT)After this, the armies of the Moabites, Ammonites, and some of the Meunites declared war on Jehoshaphat. [2] Messengers came and told Jehoshaphat, “A vast army from Edom is marching against you from beyond the Dead Sea. They are already at Hazazon-tamar.” (This was another name for En-gedi.) [3] Jehoshaphat was terrified by this news and begged the Lord for guidance. He also ordered everyone in Judah to begin fasting. [4] So people from all the towns of Judah came to Jerusalem to seek the Lord’s help.
During his prayer…
 [10] “And now see what the armies of Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir are doing. You would not let our ancestors invade those nations when Israel left Egypt, so they went around them and did not destroy them. [11] Now see how they reward us! For they have come to throw us out of your land, which you gave us as an inheritance. [12] O our God, won’t you stop them? We are powerless against this mighty army that is about to attack us. We do not know what to do, but we are looking to you for help.”
King James says:

“our eyes are on You”

When your eyes are on Jesus…when your vision is fixed on God…you are looking in the right direction…

God will always answer someone who is looking to, and depending on Him for help


 ***The turning point in battle is turning the battle to the Lord***
2 Chronicles 20:15-19 (NLT)He said, “Listen, all you people of Judah and Jerusalem! Listen, King Jehoshaphat! This is what the Lord says: Do not be afraid! Don’t be discouraged by this mighty army, for the battle is not yours, but God’s.
The enemy is REAL but we don’t need to be discouraged or afraid
Some people try to deny the enemy…
Denying the enemy STOPS God’s hand because you can’t defeat an enemy that you say doesn’t exist
You don’t have to deny the sickness
you don’t have to deny the report
you don’t need to put the problem under the rug

The battle is God’s…it just happens to involve you
The battle in your life is about bringing glory to God ultimately…you are simply in the middle of it – satan wants to stop your life from glorifying God
if that means stopping your prayers…then he will attack them
if that means trying to cause division or turmoil…then he will try
if that means trying to discourage you…he will do his best
Don’t try to win the battle on your own…because it is not yours in the first place!
[16] Tomorrow, march out against them. You will find them coming up through the ascent of Ziz at the end of the valley that opens into the wilderness of Jeruel.

God told them to, “march out” – there will always be some steps that you have to take
Don’t be afraid to walk towards your enemy
OFTEN you will have to meet your enemy FACE TO FACE
You’ll see the report
You’ll hear the news
You’ll get the call
You’ll face the crisis
[17] But you will not even need to fight. Take your positions; then stand still and watch the Lord’s victory. He is with you, O people of Judah and Jerusalem. Do not be afraid or discouraged. Go out against them tomorrow, for the Lord is with you!” 
You won’t have to fight in the LORD’S BATTLE…but you will have to take the courage to stand in your position and WATCH
The reason that we STAND STILL is to stay out of His way
ALL kids love to help their dad…But let’s be honest, Dad can get it done quicker and better!
[18] Then King Jehoshaphat bowed low with his face to the ground. And all the people of Judah and Jerusalem did the same, worshiping the Lord. [19] Then the Levites from the clans of Kohath and Korah stood to praise the Lord, the God of Israel, with a very loud shout.

How do you turn your battle to the Lord?

What do you DO while your just STANDING THERE?

pray God’s word back to Him
pray often
pray pleading the blood of Jesus
pray with authority in Jesus name
wait expectantly – knowing that something is about to happen
wait talking of God’s faithfulness – this is the sure way to BUILD YOUR FAITH
wait productively – we wait on the battle while taking care of the home front – don’t get so caught up that you let other areas of your life fall into ruins…!
praise thanking God for victory
praise, being open with others about what God is doing
EGGS break easy – in this context they represent our prayers, our trust, our hopes, our dreams
if everything is riding on God then we are risking it ALL on His ability and faithfulness
let Him have your basket 

The battle is NOT YOURS…

 ***The turning point in battle is turning the battle to the Lord***
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