5 Good Reasons To Keep Going When You Feel Like Quitting

Not Giving Up Might Be Your Best Decision

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When things in life get difficult, often quitting seems like the best option. You don’t know what to do or how to handle what life is throwing at you. When the pressure builds, the stakes are high, and everything is riding on your decision, you may feel like quitting. However, quitting too soon is never the best option.

Don’t get me wrong. It certainly seems like quitting is the best option. I mean think about the instant stress relief — The thing is, you know as well as I do that once you quit, you will instantly regret it.

You’ve struggled, prayed, planned and pursued the vision in your heart, or your purpose in life and quitting too soon isn’t going to be the relief you think it will be. When you give up and quit too soon, you have the tendency to look back and wonder how things might have been.

If you are like me, there have probably been moments when giving up seemed like the path to travel…perhaps you are at a crossroads right now. I can make you one promise that will prove true: When you look at life in the rearview mirror, you will wish you had not given up and quit.

Pressing to reach your vision will stretch you. At one time or another, you will probably feel like quitting. It will push your resources and mental capacity to the limit. Reaching a vision is never easy, in fact, it’s really hard. Stepping into the plan of God for your life is exciting, and it sets your heart on fire, but pursuing the God-given vision for your life will take all the hard work you have to give.

There is a God-given vision for every person’s life.

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Yours may be to:

◆    Build a more stable family dynamic in your home

◆    Strengthen your relationship with your spouse

◆    Pursue Ministry

◆    Provide outreach and compassion to hurting people around the world

◆    Simply to make ends meet financially

◆    Grow closer to God

Whatever your vision, no matter how big or how small, there will be moments when you feel like quitting. This post is, in fact, a follow-up to an article I wrote some time ago. In that article, I wrote about the top 5 times to keep going in life and not quit. You need to read it…it will help you. But I thought you might need to know more than the times not to quit; you need to know good reasons to keep going when you feel like quitting.

So let me give you five…

5 Good Reasons To Keep Going When You Feel Like Quitting 

Quitting kills your potential

You are going to see a recurring theme among all five reasons I’m giving you. They all involve the word kill. It’s a strong word to use, I know, but you need to understand what really happens when you quit. Quitting always kills something in your life.

When you feel like quitting and then give in to that feeling, it kills your potential. Your potential gets stopped dead in its tracks. What might have been, will never be, once you make the choice to quit. If you quit on your marriage, what might have been will never be. If you make the decision to quit on God’s vision for your life, what might have been will never be.

Having potential means that something exists in possibility, so when you have potential, it means that something is capable of developing into reality. So, let me ask you a question: What possibilities are in your life right now that you’re willing to kill off just because you feel like quitting?

Quitting kills your confidence

You’ve probably quit things before…we all have. When you quit, did it make you fell better or worse? I guess it depends on the situation, but when you feel like quitting, chances are good that you are on the right path, you’re  just tired. Quitting, under those circumstances, will kill your future confidence. You will always wonder what might have happened if you had stuck it out just a little longer.

I remember starting a small blog back in 2005. The blogging movement was just getting started, and I wasn’t sure what to write about. Discouragement got the best of me, so…I quit. Every time I write a new post now, I wonder who my words might have reached if only I wouldn’t have given up and quit. You may feel like quitting but if you do your confidence will suffer for it.

Quitting kills your leadership

Now, some of you may not feel like this applies to you. But make no mistake about it, you are a leader. “Everyone leads someone,” is a belief that I’ve held on to for over two decades now. You don’t need me to draw out the implications of all your relationships. The fact is, you influence someone every single day. Even if you don’t think you lead anyone else, you are still responsible for leading yourself.

When you quit on your vision or give up in the heat of the moment, it destroys your credibility and trust with those who are watching you. Trust is essential to great leadership. You can’t influence people without it. If you feel like quitting, take a step back and think about the consequences of what you’re about to do. How will it affect your kids? How will it affect your marriage? How will it affect your ministry and relationship with God?

The truth is, when you quit, it gives those who are watching you the green light to quit also.

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Quitting kills your faith

You may not agree with me on this, but hear me out. First of all, I’m not talking about “salvation faith.” The message I’m trying to send is NOT that quitting on your vision or making the decision to give up will somehow affect your salvation. My point is every time you quit it erodes a little bit of your capacity to believe again in the future.

If you’ve ever taken a risk, or leap of faith, only to find yourself in a position where you had to scale back, let people go, or stop pursuing what you feel God put in your heart, then you understand what I’m saying. It’s a little bit harder to take the risk the second time around because your thoughts are skewed by the fact that you had to quit the last time.

Often when you feel like quitting, it’s NOT the time to stop. When you feel like quitting, it’s a good opportunity to seek some encouragement. Reach out to someone who has wisdom and perspective and seek their advice. Make sure that you have a solid support system in place to help you when your faith feels faint. Pray…get ahold of God…seek him…spend time with him…recharge your spiritual batteries. In fact, I wrote about the importance of seeking God in another post. 

Quitting kills your dream

Your dreams are too important to give up just because things are a little rough right now and you feel like quitting. DON’T DO IT! DON’T QUIT!

Your dream is your gift from God. It weaves itself into every part of your life. Your dream is what pushes you to get up in the morning and work hard. Are you honestly ready to throw in the towel? You feel like quitting right now, but the feeling will pass.

About a year ago (at the time of this post), I had back surgery. The pain was the most intense thing I’ver ever felt. It radiated down through my hip and seemed like someone was pulling my right leg off of my body. There were bone fragments trapped behind a nerve, tearing and cutting at it. I felt like quitting. The dreams I had for my life seemed gone for a little while. There were some days during my recovery when I wondered if I would be able to continue my ministry (I’m a pastor). When I look in the rearview mirror of life, I’m so glad I didn’t quit, because today my dream feels stronger than ever.

At some point, you will feel like quitting. Your dream will be too difficult, too big, too unattainable or too uncomfortable. You won’t know what to do, and life will seem uncertain. In those moments when you feel like quitting, take a step back and reassess why you started in the first place.

You probably didn’t start chasing your dream because it was easy. You chase your dream because the outcome is worth the fight. 

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So what about you? What are your reasons for not quitting? I would love to hear what keeps you going when life is hardest.

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Giving Up On Your Dream: 25 Questions To Ask Before You Do

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So, you are thinking of giving up on your dream.
How long have you been waiting on God to bring your dream into reality? Some of you have been waiting weeks, months, and in many cases, years. You want to experience God do the impossible in your life. You’ve cried about your situation and longed for something to break open in what seems to be a dead, dormant, and dried up dream.

What do you do at this point?
You are thinking of giving up on your dream

If you have ever argued with yourself about the validity of your dream, you’re not alone. You are in the company of great people. Almost every single person I can think of from Scripture who God spoke to about great things happening in their life, had doubt.

They couldn’t see it happening. Oh, they wanted it to happen. They prayed that it would happen, but they could not “see” it. Giving up on your dream feels like the most difficult thing in the world, yet at the same time, it seems like a welcome relief to just release the pressure of believing for something that has yet to come to fruition.

The greatest barrier to your dream is a lack of faith. Not the sort of faith that it takes to believe God is real, but the kind of faith that continues to “see” the unseeable.

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You must be able to see the dream before you can reach the dream, and even if you achieve your dream, you still have to keep on “seeing” the dream in your heart.

Dreams are fragile. They don’t take root very quickly. Dreams need constant work and attention, and frankly, giving up on your dream might feel like the best route. But don’t. You will regret it. I promise you.

If you don’t feel like God is coming through anytime soon, I can relate. For many years my wife and I wanted children. We tried all we knew, but nothing happened. In fact, we went to doctors, spent all the money we could afford to pay, and still nothing.

Now, if you have a dream that you believe is from God, you are going to relate to what I’m about to say…Doesn’t it make you mad when you see others who have the same or a similar dream as you, and everything just works out for them? Don’t you get a little angry that things happened so effortlessly for them when you’ve been struggling to believe, trying all you know, and holding on to hope?

It isn’t that you want bad for them, not at all. You just want your dream too. You want God to show up in the middle of your pain and make the difference that you know he can make. This God who created the universe can make your dream come true whenever he wants to, and you know it. So when you see someone grab hold of their dream or their promise from God, you are happy for them. However, inside your heart, there is also a sense of resentment.

You want it too.

My wife and I prayed to have children for fourteen years…fourteen. That is a long time when you are living it. I finally came to the thought that maybe children and a family were something we weren’t supposed to have.

My wife and I are pastors, so we would continue to love God and celebrate all the other people who easily had children. We would cheer them on and be glad for them, but as for us, it just wasn’t the will of God. My dream began to die.

Now, let me say that along the way God stirred my spirit many, many times and reminded me of a promise he had given me years earlier. See, probably a decade earlier, God made me a clear promise. In fact, he made me four separate promises.

Some of you may not believe that God still speaks…sorry if you don’t. God does speak. He spoke to me. Not in an audible voice, but in my mind and my heart. I will never forget the day that I prayed about several very pressing wants and needs, and all of a sudden, God showed up.

Among the four promises God made to me that day was the promise that my wife and I would have children. You don’t know how many times over the years I’ve felt like Abraham (if you don’t know the story, read Genesis chapter 15). After around a decade of holding on to hope, it seemed that maybe the promise wasn’t true for us after all.

However, I couldn’t let go of it. Why? Because God had already miraculously came through on two of the four promises he made to me. They were also impossibilities, but nevertheless, God did it. Deep inside I knew God had something in store. Giving up on your dream will immediately stop God’s hand in your life. Keep believing even when it looks impossible.

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God began to move our heart toward adoption. This is something I had never considered. I was even hesitant at first, but the Lord began to open up my heart to the possibility that adoption was his plan for our family.

We began our classes, got our home approved, went through the struggles and heartaches that come with the journey of adoption, and in the end, God came through miraculously again.

We adopted two of the most amazing boys that ever came into the world. When the cases closed and everything was final, it’s as if I could hear God say, “told you so.” He had given a dream, placed a vision, stirred an expectancy in my heart, and he had come through on it.

You have to hear my heart today: Don’t. Give. Up.
Giving up on your dream will be the worst mistake you ever make.

Things may not seem like they are working for you AT ALL. In fact, it might look like your situation is unraveling at the seams, but don’t give up. What I’ve come to realize over the years is that God works in the background of your life. He orchestrates situations and turns your heart. God directs your steps even when it feels like he is a million miles away, but in the end, you can know that he will come through for you.

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Most people have a dream, but they give up too soon, or they let their faith slump into a place where their dream feels unattainable and impossible. That may describe you today, but even in your doubt, God can still work. See, just because you give up on yourself, doesn’t mean that God has given up on you. Your dream is really his dream for you. Giving up on your dream is giving up on God’s dream for your life.

The greatest barrier to your dream is a lack of faith, but faith can be built! I’m so glad that I didn’t give up on the dream of having a family. So many times it would have been easy to do so, but my wife and I would never have had the opportunity to love and raise our amazing boys.

Now, if you are tracking along with me, you will know that I have mentioned three out of four promises God came through on. So what about the fourth one? I’m still waiting. Over a decade later, I’m still waiting. In fact, at the moment my doubts have looked bigger than the promise. However, I’ve noticed the same stirring beginning to happen in my spirit. God is moving. There is an encounter coming. God is about to come through on the promise. I can feel it.

But what about you? Are you giving up on your dream too soon?

Giving Up On Your Dream: 25 Questions To Ask Before You Do

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I’m going to divide these questions up into five categories to help you use them more efficiently. I encourage you to go through these questions prayerfully…really answer them. Knowing the answers is not a guarantee that you will reach your dream, but rather they help you focus and understand yourself more in the process. The twenty-five questions are just designed to make you think. Ask God to open up your mind as your answer each one.

Heart

  1. Do you feel this dream is from God? (This is the most basic question you need to answer.)
  2. Are you willing to love God no matter the outcome of this dream?
  3. How often do you pray about this dream? (Not just wish and hope, but pray)
  4. Do you feel reaching this dream will fulfill part of God’s plan in your life?
  5. In what ways will you prepare your heart to go forward on your dream?

Soul

  1. Will giving up on your dream make your emotional state better or worse?
  2. Do you have the willpower to see this dream through to fulfillment?
  3. Is it possible that the reason you’ve thought of giving up on your dream is that you are afraid you will actually achieve it?
  4. How bad will you regret giving up on your dream?
  5. In what ways will you prepare your will and emotions to go forward on your dream?

Mind

  1. Can you “see” your dream in your mind?
  2. Are you able to visualize with detail and clarity, the way it will feel to reach your dream?
  3. Does your mind often gravitate to your dream, to the point that you think of it constantly?
  4. How would giving up on your dream make your mental state better? (If it wouldn’t, that may be a clear indicator to keep pursuing and believing.)
  5. In what ways can you prepare your mind to keep on believing?

Strength

  1. Are you prepared to keep believing for your dream, no matter what people think of you?
  2. Do you have a spiritual plan in place to give you strength and stamina? (You need a solid spiritual plan in place to continue pursuing your God-given dream. If you don’t have one, you are likely to give up.)
  3. Will you commit to praying about your dream daily?
  4. Do you have unforgiveness in your heart towards anyone? (If “yes,” then you need to forgive them immediately. Nothing stops your potential to reach a dream quicker than harboring this festering seed in your life.)
  5. In what ways can you prepare yourself to gain spiritual strength to achieve your dream?

Legacy

  1. Will you regret giving up on your dream?
  2. Are you spiritually able to move past it if you give up?
  3. How will you feel at the end of your life after giving up on your dream?
  4. Can you comprehend the reality of NOT living in your dream?
  5. What if the fulfillment of your dream were to happen tomorrow? How would you feel knowing that you gave up one day too soon?

I think we all realize that there comes a point in which letting go of a dream is the best option, but personally, I believe giving up should be the last option.

When it comes to my dream, my declaration and determination is to fight until there is only one man standing…and I intend to be that man.

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What about you?
What is your determination?

God has come through for me too many times for me to give up on my dreams now.

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How To Supercharge Your Dream With Passion

Passion

The difference between having a dream and reaching your dream is passion.

Passion may not solve all the problems there are in relation to making your dream come true. I know that passion alone may not make everything work. But passion is definitely the hot wire of your dream. Without it you can kiss your dream goodbye.

No one without passion will ever successfully get ahold of their dream. So here’s the question…What are you passionate about? There’s something that drives you. That’s what passion does for us. It drives us. Passion pushes you forward. It compels you. It propels you.

What is it that does that for you? When you figure it out, you’ve found your passion. Once you find your passion you are at a good starting place to begin chasing your dream.

Passion does several things for us:

  1. It keeps us awake at night.
  2. It keeps us motivated when we might otherwise give up.
  3. It keeps our thoughts filled with ideas and possibility.
  4. It keeps us excited about tomorrow.

You are going to need all of those things and more if you are going to see your dream come true. I know that is what you want. So passion has got to be discovered and stoked. It’s like a fire. You have to stir up your passion every once in awhile or it begins to die out.

Building my home taught me a lot about passion.

I remember several years ago when my wife and I were just about to start building our house. It was a crazy time. We had never built a house before; but we really wanted to have something to call our own. I remember sitting down on the couch with my dad and going over house plans. The excitement was a feeling I’ll never forget.

A few months after those initial meetings, my wife and I went to the bank and got started on our loan. To this day I can recall how I felt when they called me to say, “you’re approved!”. It was a great day. Not long after that the real need for passion came. See, we had been renting a house for over five years. To be able to start building and make the payments we needed to make, meant we had to move out of our rent house. So we did. My in laws were kind enough to let us stay with them for what was supposed to be about three months.

Three months eventually turned into nine months! Much longer than we had originally anticipated. During that nine months, the thing that kept us going was the dream of having our home. Passion made me want to pursue my dream.

I didn’t know how to contract the building of a home; but I learned because of passion. I really didn’t know the first thing about actually doing any of the work myself; But I did it. My dad purchased a hammer for me on my birthday; and I used that hammer daily for nine months. Passion kept me awake at night thinking of ways to accomplish tasks that I had never undertaken before. Passion motivated me to get up on days that I might otherwise had given up. Passion filled my mind with possibilities. Passion kept me excited about tomorrow.

What keeps you awake at night? Is there something that makes it hard for you to go to sleep? If there is, it just might be your passion. When I first began pastoring my church I couldn’t sleep. My mind was alive with ideas. How could I reach more people? What was the best way to speak? Did God want us to do this or that? I would lie awake for hours just thinking. When it became too much for me, I would get up and go into the living room and write. There were entire notebooks that eventually became filled with ideas that passion drove me to dream about.

You were wired by God with something to be passionate about. Your passion is connected to your purpose. Remember, God created you with a purpose. He has wired you to fulfill that purpose. The fact is, no one can live out the purpose you were created for except you. The amazing thing about it is that your purpose is the bucket that holds your dream. Your dream is an extension of your purpose. Maybe you’ve never taken the time to investigate it fully. Maybe for you, your passion is food, or sports, or playing an instrument. Your passion might be collecting something or learning a new skill. The thing is, passion is a major contributor to your dream. So lean in to your passions.

For the longest time, I had a dream of being a writer. But discouragement kept me back from it. Once I gave in to my passions and started to explore them, through this blog…I haven’t been able to stop. You’ll be the same way. Your passion will drive you.

The difference between having a dream and reaching your dream is passion.

If you want to flip the switch and activate your dream, you are going to have to find your passion. It’s there. If you know the purpose you were created for you are already a good way down the road to reaching your dream. But here’s the thing…Only you can really answer the question “what am I passionate about”.

Why not take the time to explore the things that could be the passion of your life? Those things might just propel you into living the life you have dreamed of living.

Answer these questions for yourself:

  1. What keeps you awake at night?
  2. Is there something that keeps you motivated when it would be easier to give up?
  3. Do you seem to be an idea person, always thinking of new ideas? Write down two of them.
  4. Are you excited when you think about the possibilities of your future? Write down what you think your future would look like if you had the chance to live out what you are passionate about.

There’s a dream inside you just waiting to be supercharged by your passion. Why not start living it today? I really hope you will!

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Live Your Dreams Today With These Three Steps

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Here’s the deal…You may not have a tomorrow. We are never promised tomorrow. With that in mind, here’s the question…Do you want to live your dreams, today?

Most people would probably have to answer “yes”. You’re probably one of those people. We tend to get caught up in day to day life and to live your dreams is pushed to the back burner. Making a living, raising a family, taking care of responsibilities becomes the language that we speak.

Dreams are just that…dreams.

But what if there was a way to live your dreams today? Don’t you think you’d do it if you could?

You’ve got a dream. Everyone does. Culture teaches us that dreams are these huge, world changing ideas…and sometimes they are. Here’s what I say…Live your dreams on a smaller scale and you can start to live your dreams now.

You dream of having more time with your family. You dream of having a job that you really love. You dream of doing the things that you really want to do. You dream of making the difference you believe you were meant to make.

Instead of letting those dreams remain in your heart…why not live your dreams today? I believe you can. You can reach your dreams. There’s a way to live  your dreams today. You just have to find it.

Here’s what to do:

1.) Define your dream.

Is your dream to make more money? (undefined)

Or is your dream to pay off a specific credit card that would allow a specific amount of cash to be put back into your family’s income stream? (defined)

Here’s the deal…I think most people categorize dreams as far away goals that they hope to someday reach. The bad news about that sort of thinking is someday usually never comes. You can spend your life dreaming about someday or you can define the steps to your dream, and live your dreams today in bite sized pieces.

How much could it help if you started defining bite sized pieces of your dream? How quickly could you reach your overall goals if they were broken down into executable parts? You could take action on those parts today. You could live your dreams today. Wouldn’t it be an awesome feeling to know that you did something today to live your dreams.

For me this blog is part of that process. I have a message. “Wouldn’t it be great to write a book for that message”, is what I ask myself. You know what? I could choose to sit on that dream and hope that someday I have the opportunity to write, or I could publish small pieces of that message every week.

Live your dreams every chance you get…in fact, make chances.

It’s taken me a while to see the value of defining my dream. But once I did it became much easier to take action on it. Living it out a little bit each day has been awesome! If you want to live your dreams today…define them.

2.) Take action.

Dreams don’t change the world. People who take action on them do.

You know what stopped me from taking action? Fear. Fear of failing. Fear of looking foolish. Fear of people not understanding.

Eventually you have to punch fear in the face if you ever intend to take action on your dream.

If you’ve defined your dream and broken it down into actionable steps…then step. Take action. Put your dream to work. You’ll be so glad that you did. You can do this thing you dream of doing.

The only thing that can stop your dream is you.

People of all ages go back to school to get their degree. Why? It’s a way to take action on their dream. People start businesses. They write books. People just like you change their life by taking action.

Who says you can’t take a step toward your dream?

Here’s a question for you…What action step could you take today to propel you towards your goals and dreams?

Answer that question in the comments below. Put it in writing where someone can see it. Put yourself out there. Sometimes the simple act of writing down your dream, or the step to your dream can make it seem more concrete. Putting it where other people can see it makes it more real and makes you feel more accountable.

3.) Live in the moment.

When you’re pursuing your dream in small, actionable steps, you have to learn to live in the moment. If not you’ll be discouraged. Discouragement is not what I want for you. In fact, one of the core values this blog represents is encouraging people.

Living in the moment allows you to enjoy how you can live your dreams today.

This is really hard for me. I’m a planner. Maybe you are too. Planners want to see the big goal accomplished. We’ve planned it out. We want it. Living in the moment seems like wasted time to a planner because you are constantly planning your next move. Be careful about doing that though. Planning is good; but it can rob you of living your dream in the moment and really enjoying it.

Here’s what you have to remember…small pieces of your dream, lived in the moment, add up over time.

My dad has a dream to reach people in Mexico with the Gospel of Jesus Christ. He’s not a missionary by trade. He has a secular job just like most people do. But I’ve seen him take many trips to Mexico to build churches, orphanages, and bible schools. What was he doing? He was living out his dream in the moment. Taking actionable steps towards his goal. Feeling the satisfaction of knowing that he did what he could.

Are you living in the moment? Are you doing what you can to pursue your dream today? You can. I hope you will.

I hope this post has encouraged you to live your dreams. Reach for them everyday.

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How To Deal With Obscurity In Two Steps

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If I’ve learned anything up to this point in my life, these two things would be at the top of the list:

  1. Everything is a spiritual matter.
  2. Everything falls under the law of sowing and reaping.

Even if you don’t believe the bible like I do…you can’t help but believe down deep that your actions carry a deeper meaning. You believe your experiences were meant to teach you something. They train you for a more meaningful and fulfilling life. At least I believe you probably want to believe those things.

Nearly every person I’ve ever known subscribes to some sort of “what goes around comes around” theory.

I believe there’s a reason for this…

You don’t want to live a life of obscurity. 

In other words, you don’t want to live a life that doesn’t matter. You want to matter. You want your experiences to matter. You want your actions to matter. You want to wake up one day and realize that after all you’ve been through there was a rhyme and reason to it all.

We all want that. No one wants to live a life of obscurity…I believe you want a life that matters.

Some of you reading this post may think that by using the word, obscurity, that I’m referring to the desire to live a life of fortune and fame. That if a person could only overcome the obscurity of their position in life…fortune and fame would find them.

That’s not the type of obscurity that I’m talking about.

I’m talking about wanting to deal with the obscurity that you feel when you toil in your prayers…perhaps for years. All the while you feel like God isn’t listening or maybe worse…doesn’t care.

I’m talking about the feeling of obscurity you may feel in your job, or obscurity in reaching your dream, even obscurity in living out your passion.

Maybe you’ve tried to make things work out for you…all to no avail. In those moments a person can feel pretty obscure.

My mind goes back to a time a couple of years ago before my wife and I were able to adopt our boys. We had prayed and prayed for God to give us children. But He didn’t. We saw countless people seem to have their prayers about the same issue answered with relative ease.

There were times when both of us felt as if God didn’t care about our feelings…at least in this one area of life. Bottomline…we felt like we were living in obscurity.

In the middle of all that frustration here’s what we did.

  • We realized that everything and I really mean everything in life is a spiritual matter. That somehow this was God’s plan for us…our lives were different. The struggles that we were a part of were spiritual problems with spiritual solutions.
  • We also continued to sow the best spiritual seeds we knew how. Given the confusion, anger, and turmoil that we sometimes felt…we still tried to sow good things every time we could. This wasn’t always easy…but it was always necessary.

It paid off too. God allowed us to adopt two awesome, amazing boys…who are making noise in the background right now as I write this post. They are so much like us it’s uncanny. We can’t imagine life without them. We can’t remember life without them. In all ways they are ours.

So…Maybe you’re in the middle of a situation right now that makes you feel pretty obscure. I can relate. But I can also give you at least one piece of advice. Here it is…continue to sow.

Here’s how to deal with obscurity in the area of your dreams, your prayers, and your desires:

1.) Don’t just believe more, or pray more…sow more.

Here’s what that may mean in your situation…

When you see someone else’s dream come true. Be happy for them. Tell them you’re happy for them. Celebrate with them. Congratulate them. You’re sowing a good spiritual seed when you do that.

If you have a friend whose prayer is answered when yours seems to fall back to the ground…Be thankful with them. Give God praise with them. Be kind to them and appreciate the fact that God still works.

When your desires fall behind. When they aren’t met. When it seems like they don’t matter. Continue to sow towards them.

Here’s the promise. Eventually all that sowing will pay off. Eventually we always reap what we sow.

Galatians 6:9

9 So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.

For years I’ve believed and anchored to this scripture. I’ve also seen it’s reality in my own life and family.

2.) Treat every situation as a spiritual thing that will eventually bring growth in your life.

There are no boxes in our life. No compartments. No things that are categorized as spiritual and non-spiritual. Why? Because humans are spiritual beings. I realize some people take offense to statements like that. They have to believe what they want to believe. As for me…I’ve seen the proof that everything works together for God’s greater purposes in my life.

Do your dead level best to view your current reality as a necessary step towards what is to come. It’s spiritual. God can and will help you. Check out another post here for even more help if your going through a difficult time.

I truly hope that something written in this post will encourage and help you. That’s my goal with every post. Raising, building, and encouraging people is what I feel called to do.

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  1. If this post has helped you…share it with someone else who may need encouraging.

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I’d love to hear your comments. So don’t hesitate to begin the conversation.

Have a great day!